May we all be blessed with mercy. This is my blessing to all. Personally, it is one of the most powerful blessings I have ever witnessed, for when I found this for self, a transformational change occurred for me. True love of self.
The lesson behind "mercy" started with my friend Pauly, whom we refer to as "the Pauly Lama". I can't recall what we were speaking of specifically but I remember him telling me "you know, you can say you are sorry, you can apologize or you can say, have mercy on me".
This was very profound to me. Profound because the move to "ask", to have mercy, merged seamlessly into my learnings regarding asking (why ask, how to ask). Asking for mercy embodies humility. It embodies surrender. In inherently acknowledges accountability while extending an offering to step into a space of compassion. Through asking for mercy, you provide someone the opportunity to be compassionate!
Asking for mercy takes a wrecking ball to the wall of "wrongness" built around you because of what you have done, did or said. The wall of "wrongness" or the wall of being "wrong" provides someone something to push against. If you ask for mercy the wall disappears due to humility, accountability and compassion.
Say "I am sorry! Have mercy on me!" and they literally have nothing to push against, unless they then create a new wall of non-compassion themselves.
Three days after my talk with Pauly, 2 days after my realization of the significance of "asking" and providing someone an opportunity to be compassionate, I was in a meeting with someone close who was very mad at me for something I had done. They were very mad and were obviously feeling their feelings fully, as they shared with me my error and how it affected them. In my heart I knew my intent at the time was never to hurt them, never to cause anger nor disrupt any part of their life but, in error, my actions did just this.
When they were finished speaking to me I looked them in the eyes and from my heart I said; "I can say I am sorry, I can apologize or I can say have mercy on me. I am sorry.....so sorry.....please, have mercy on me."
The wall came down. The found compassion for me. My lesson, as always had divine timing.
The one final thing I will share here is, you can have mercy on others too, with or without them asking. It is up to you to find that sort of compassion in your heart. A good place to start to manifest this level of compassion, as always with any learning, is to first turn to self. Raise the platform from which you view the world. Have mercy on yourself. Look in the mirror. Feel, fully, what you are mad at yourself for. Look deeply and from your heart, with everything you have, give yourself the blessing, the grace of mercy.
Bless you. May we all be blessed with mercy, for ourselves and others. May the decisions we need to make be clear and easy to make. May we be blessed to realize all we need we have, if we look close enough.